Last week we were lucky enough to join the beautiful wedding celebration of two friends – JD and Noelle, in a most amazing rural setting close to Perpignan.

The first reading was Erich Fromm’s – The Art of Loving.  And surprisingly it seemed to be all about Focus, Commitment and Discipline.

“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise.  If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever.  A feeling comes and it may go.  How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision.

Love isn’t just something natural.  It requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith and the overcoming of narcissism.  It isn’t a feeling, it is a promise.”

KR